WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #46
AGING BABY BOOMERS EVALUATE RELATIONSHIPS
If Baby Boomers view relationships through the aging-wisdom lens, we are able to accurately identify those that enhance and enrich our lives. This ability comes in handy when we choose who will accompany us on the journey into old age.
Before making irrevocable decisions, some boomers do formal evaluations to double-check accuracy. Why not give it a try?
The following is one example of a formal relationship evaluation.
(1) Write down a list of essential relationship criteria. Itemize, then prioritize, e.g. mutual love, honesty, trust, reciprocity, respect, kindness, open communication, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
(2) Write down a list of every friend, associate, acquaintance, and romantic partner/s. (Unsurprisingly, family is an entirely separate subject.)
(3) Match names with essential criteria. Although one glance provides adequate evidence, compile two written lists; one composed of those who meet all or most criteria and another composed of those who do not.
(4) It is decision time. Are you prepared to let go of relationships that do not meet essential criteria? Are you willing to make exceptions? Who gets exemptions? Why?
NOTE
Quality relationships enrich Baby Boomers' lives and enhance wellbeing.
Negative relationships damage lives and diminish wellbeing.
Easy choice!
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AGING BABY BOOMERS ASK FOR (DEMAND) RECIPROCAL RELATIONSHIPS
WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #45
AGING BABY BOOMERS ASK FOR (DEMAND) RECIPROCAL RELATIONSHIPS
Baby Boomers are observing that the older we get, the less likely we are to accept lack of reciprocity in relationships. Our patience for lopsided compromising, appeasing, and accommodating has run out. Enough is enough!
Reciprocity denotes equal give-and-take. We concede on various disputed issues and our romantic partners and friends acquiesce on others. Over the course of time, not simultaneously, concessions mostly even out.
So, what happens when boomers ask for (demand) reciprocity in relationships?
We will encounter a broad range of resistance and turmoil. Resistance typically ranges from mild complaints to bitter resentment; turmoil typically ranges from constant conflicts to breakups.
What happens next is deciding whether to stay resolute or to withdraw demands.
NOTE
As many Baby Boomers already have experienced, there are individuals in our lives who will agree to full reciprocity but do not follow through - as if we won't notice. Yes we do!
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Boomers Evaluate Relationships ...
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: drwendykyman@gmail.com
BLOG #45
AGING BABY BOOMERS ASK FOR (DEMAND) RECIPROCAL RELATIONSHIPS
Baby Boomers are observing that the older we get, the less likely we are to accept lack of reciprocity in relationships. Our patience for lopsided compromising, appeasing, and accommodating has run out. Enough is enough!
Reciprocity denotes equal give-and-take. We concede on various disputed issues and our romantic partners and friends acquiesce on others. Over the course of time, not simultaneously, concessions mostly even out.
So, what happens when boomers ask for (demand) reciprocity in relationships?
We will encounter a broad range of resistance and turmoil. Resistance typically ranges from mild complaints to bitter resentment; turmoil typically ranges from constant conflicts to breakups.
What happens next is deciding whether to stay resolute or to withdraw demands.
NOTE
As many Baby Boomers already have experienced, there are individuals in our lives who will agree to full reciprocity but do not follow through - as if we won't notice. Yes we do!
STAY TUNED
Boomers Evaluate Relationships ...
CONTACT INFORMATION
Email: drwendykyman@gmail.com
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