Thursday, May 17, 2018

WIDOWED AND DIVORCED AGING BABY BOOMERS ARE SUDDENLY-SINGLE

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BLOG #34
WIDOWED AND DIVORCED AGING BABY BOOMERS ARE SUDDENLY-SINGLE

Recently widowed and divorced Baby Boomers learn, rather quickly, that there is no seamless transition out of long relationships and into singledom.

As expected, widowed boomers cope with feeling disoriented, dislocated, and grief-stricken. Widows receive outpourings of support, compassion, and sympathy. The same applies to boomers whose spouses abandon them and also to those who escape abusive, addicted, and/or unfaithful partners.

It is a different story for Baby Boomers who instigate divorces due to reasons judged, by others, as unacceptable. Although these new singles experience a measure of emotional fallout that accompanies all breakups, they rarely garner much support, compassion, and sympathy. Should they?

NOTE
Time does not totally heal all who need healing. However, time does provide a pause to step-by-shaky step gather strength, rebuild stability, and begin the process of adapting to life without a mate.

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Newly-Single Boomers Make Adjustments  ...

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Thursday, May 10, 2018

WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #33
AGING BABY BOOMERS TRY DIVORCE ALTERNATIVES

In lieu of divorce, unhappily married Baby Boomers are trying out alternatives.

If we peek inside one popular alternative, appearances belie reality. To the casual observer, a couple appears to be together. They reside in the same home, share finances, as well as jointly celebrate family occasions and special holidays - more or less amiably.

In actuality, spouses live independent lives, sleep in separate bedrooms, communicate only when necessary, and are never romantically intimate.

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This alternative works best for affluent Baby Boomer couples who are able to afford houses large enough to divide into two distinct sections. Clearly, it is a challenge for couples with modest incomes and small living quarters to create separate spaces.

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Newly-Single Boomers ...

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Thursday, May 3, 2018

WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #32
GREY DIVORCE UNSETTLES AGING BABY BOOMERS

Like it or not, the term 'grey divorce' (aka 'silver divorce') has made its way into contemporary jargon to symbolize Baby Boomers' sky-high divorce rates.

Plentiful theories assign plentiful reasons for boomers' plentiful divorces. A primary one suggests longevity plays a major role in marriage breakups.

Boomers are living longer than previous generations. This positive statistic is juxtaposed with the budding sense of personal mortality. Time is a dwindling commodity. Divorce is a reaction to the irresistible pressure to maximize whatever time is left, free from the constraints of marriage.

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This blunt statement is one Baby Boomer's rationale.
"My 70th birthday was the expiration date on a long, oppressive marriage. I redeemed the imaginary 'get out of jail card' and divorced so I can live in peace for however many years remain for me."
Is this an acceptable rationale or self-indulgent excuse or ... ?

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Boomers Choose Divorce Alternatives ...

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Thursday, April 26, 2018

DO AGING BABY BOOMERS THINK FOREVER IS TOO LONG?

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BLOG #31
DO AGING BABY BOOMERS THINK FOREVER IS TOO LONG?

Once upon a time, married Baby Boomers took vows to forever love, honor, and stay wedded to our spouses. Way back when those vows were made, we believed our mutual devotion would be everlasting. Remember?

With age, more and more boomers cannot fathom making life-long commitments to anyone - or anything. The jaded among us wonder whether youthful beliefs in eternal love and commitment can be blamed on immature foolishness, inexperienced naivete, innocent optimism, or ... ?

These jaded boomers attend weddings and cringe when starry-eyed couples, in their twenties, promise forever. A few want to shout out, 'Stop. You are too young to promise your life away.'

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Case in point is a 71 year-old Baby Boomer who lamented, 'I took my marriage vows at 22. How was I supposed to know forever would last this long? Ouch!

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Grey Divorce Unsettles Boomers ...

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Thursday, April 19, 2018

UNHAPPILY-MARRIED AGING BABY BOOMERS

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BLOG #30
UNHAPPILY-MARRIED AGING BABY BOOMERS

It's not a news flash to report that countless Baby Boomers are in unhappy, unfulfilling marriages.
It is informative, though, to report the main factors that induce boomers to remain married ... unhappily ever after.

Standard Justifications: Children still live at home, financial concerns, religious beliefs, wedding vows are sacred, et al.

A Prevalent Excuse: Aging boomers are too set in our ways to disrupt familiar lifestyles. Long-time couples stay married to avoid the difficult adjustments that follow breakups. In other words, inertia has set in.

A Deep-Seated and Often Unacknowledged Reason: The fear of being alone.

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The Paradox: Baby Boomers (and others) who are convinced that being in relationships is preferable to being alone, complain they feel alone and lonely in those relationships.

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Boomers Think Forever Is Too Long ...

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Thursday, April 12, 2018

HAVE LONG-MARRIED BABY BOOMERS LOST THEIR SIZZLE?

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BLOG #29
HAVE LONG-MARRIED BABY BOOMERS LOST THEIR SIZZLE?

Are long-married couples romantically intimate? Maybe.
Can faded marital passion be rejuvenated? Possibly.
Does your passion-battery need to be recharged? Uhhhh...perhaps.

Typically, first-wave and midpoint married boomers are either done with, or winding down from, the time and energy-consuming distractions that dampened the sizzling flames of our young marriages - building families and careers. Now if we choose, older healthy boomers are able to commit time and energy to reignite our passion. Yes. It is a choice.

Conversely, most last-wave married boomers are in the midst of hectic, busy lives, i.e. demanding careers, children living at home, elderly parents needing care, et cetera. Naturally, these responsibilities stifle amorous activities - to what extent is also a choice.

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Needless to say, multiple issues other than distractions factor into Baby Boomers' diminished marital passion and subsequent choices.

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Unhappily Married Boomers ...

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Thursday, April 5, 2018

LONG-MARRIED BABY BOOMERS

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BLOG #28
LONG-MARRIED BABY BOOMERS

Congratulations to Baby Boomers who have long-standing marriages. In fact, a number of first-wave boomers have celebrated, or are about to celebrate, 50-year golden anniversaries. Wow!

We all are aware that a combination of love, friendship, and laughter are keys to successful marriages. And, we all are impressed if spouses support and respect each other, as well as share common values, interests, and goals.

Boomers give high praise - albeit with a tad of disbelief, a bit of curiosity, and a tinge of envy - to 50-year couples who say they continue to be attracted to, charmed by, and intimate with, each other.

NOTE
In fantasyland, long-married couples live in love-filled, compatible harmony. 
In realville, ... well, you know.

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Romantic Married Boomers ...

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