Thursday, March 29, 2018

WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #27
DATING WHILE EMPTY NESTING, AGING BABY BOOMER STYLE

When adult children leave home to live on their own, Baby Boomers don't immediately celebrate. We usually go through a period of adjustment (mere minutes to few months) before fully enjoying the benefits of empty nests - especially regained privacy and independence.

Single empty nesters appreciate the ability to date and cultivate romantic relationships, free from prying eyes watching our every move. Ummmm ... except if your adult children feel it is their right to meddle and voice opinions, even from afar.

The fiercest responses to meddlesome offspring are summed up by a boomer who unequivocally stated, 'My love-life is none of my children's business and I won't ask their permission to have one.' Definitely fierce.

On the other end of the spectrum are boomers who surrender control to their children, summed up by an empty nester who wept, 'Sure I would like a bit of romance and companionship, but I ended a relationship and gave up dating because it upset my overly protective kids.' Overly protective, or selfish, or ???

Then there are Baby Boomers who reawaken rebellious teenage skills in order to hide forbidden dates. One boomer-teen's justification, 'Sneaking around and having taboo trysts add spicy elements to dating.' Really?

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Why would grown-up offspring deny their parents the joys of romance and companionship? And, why would Baby Boomer parents allow our children to treat us as if we are the children? Why indeed!

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Long-married boomers ...

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Thursday, March 22, 2018

WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #26
DATING WHILE PARENTING, AGING BABY BOOMER STYLE

How do last-wave Baby Boomer singles - with youngsters still living at home - find free time for dating and romance? HaHaHa...

Fortunate boomers have families that provide backup. Singles arrange dates to coincide with children's sleepovers at the homes of either the other parents or willing grandparents, aunts, et al. It's a great arrangement - if family members are readily available, actually willing, and truly present in the children's lives. More importantly, if the kids are safe and comfortable.

A practical solution works well for those with or without families. Singles set up sleepover exchanges with a couple of trustworthy single-parent friends or neighbors. 'You take my kids one night and I'll take your kids another night.' It's a good arrangement - if the kids get along (and there's not too many of them). And again, if they are safe and comfortable.

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Yep.   Both plans forgo spontaneity and ration dating sprees.
Nope. There are no easy or convenient solutions - but as we all know, parenting is not easy or convenient.

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Empty Nests, Dating, And Aging Boomers 

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Thursday, March 15, 2018

WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #25
AGING BABY BOOMERS HAVE BLIND-DATE NIGHTMARES

Nightmarish blind dates can happen to singles of all ages. A particularly wicked one looms for aging Baby Boomers.

This nightmare unfolds as soon as we catch glimpses of our matches. Not because they are unattractive or unpleasant. It is because they resemble ... our grandparents.

Throughout the date we're distracted by internal chattering, 'Why would our matchmakers think we would be romantically interested in anyone sooooo old?' And, 'Do those setting up the dates see us as that old?' How absurd!

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The nightmare reaches an appalling climax when Baby Boomers wonder, 'Are our dates' internal chatterings focused on how old we look?' Oh the horrors!!!

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Dating While Parenting ...

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Thursday, March 8, 2018

WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #24
AGING BABY BOOMERS GO ON BLIND DATES


Countless Baby Boomers met (and meet) spouses on blind dates.
Hopeful single boomers go on blind dates wishing for similar results.
Others go just for fun. 

Then again, numerous boomers have given up on blind dates after one too many disappointing matches to incompatible people.  

Rather than give up, let's unravel blind date failures from another angle - the matchmaker angle. Generally speaking, we regularly and mistakenly assume all matchmakers respect our likes and dislikes; they arrange dates accordingly.

In effect, matchmakers are comparable to gift givers. Ideal gift givers hand out presents that suit recipients' tastes, not theirs. In contrast, lousy gift givers hand out presents that suit their tastes, not the recipients. If we substitute matchmakers with gift givers, their roles in successful or botched blind dates are evident. Choose wisely.

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Baby Boomers wonder whether lousy matchmakers vicariously live out their personal fantasies when they arrange dates. That is, do matchmakers choose whom they would date ... if they could?

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Boomers Blind Date Nightmares ...

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Thursday, March 1, 2018

WELCOME TO BABY BOOMER MEMOS
BLOG #23
ARE AGING BABY BOOMER SINGLES TOO OLD TO                                        
                                  DATE?

Are single Baby Boomers too old to date? Nonsense
Who dictates the dating cut-off age? Nobody
How do older singles find dates that lead to romance? Is this a trick question?

No tricks, just reality. With age, the pool of prospective partners shrinks to a puddle, especially for women. Despite the odds, boomers do find romance. How?

Use time-tested, commonsense methods:
~ First, transform reluctance and pessimism into effort and determination.
~ Next, add a huge dose of courage.
~ Then, expand comfort zones - do new things, go new places, and meet new people.
Sheesh!

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On the whole, Baby Boomers say time-tested, commonsense methods are reasonable. Yet, most agree with the boomer who said, 'Finding suitable dates has become a daunting task, not a fun game.' Many ask, 'What happened to us? We used to be bold, carefree, and adventurous. Did we lose it all to age?'

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Boomers Go On Blind Dates And ...

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