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WILL AGING BABY BOOMERS COMPLY WITH 'THE UNOFFICIAL IN-LAW RULEBOOK?'
Stepping into the role of parent-in-law is not always smooth sailing. It's a rare Baby Boomer who flawlessly avoids common blunders. 'Flawless' parents-in-law purportedly comply with an extensive list of DOs And DON'Ts cited in an imaginary 'Unofficial In-Law Rulebook.'
In case you're wondering, muttering profanities are typical responses to the following examples of so-called rules. Let 'em rip!
~ Give up control. Prove it by respecting adult children's independence and whom they choose as mates.
~ Show consideration for boundaries set by offspring and their mates. For example, wait for invitations to their homes instead of spontaneously dropping by.
~ Limit phone calls and texts to avoid being a pesky nuisance.
Yada, Yada, Yada ...
~ Interfere by voicing unasked-for opinions or advice.
~ Get insulted if kids call only when it's convenient for them, such as while they're commuting to-and-from work or taking dogs for long walks.
~ Misuse keys to children's homes. If parents are given house keys - for emergency use only - never betray trust by randomly entering their residences when there are no emergencies.
Will Baby Boomers comply with 'The In-Law Rulebook?' It depends. The more boomers like our daughters- and sons-in-law, the more effort we make to ensure our kids are happy and have harmonious relationships.
Conversely, boomers who dislike children's mates are not motivated to put much effort into the parent-in-law role. Moreover, some of these boomers believe parents' happiness takes precedence over children's. Do you agree? Disagree?
Boomers Miss Our Adult Children ...