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AGING BABY BOOMERS' OCCUPIED EMPTY-NESTS
The transition from active parenting to empty nesting takes time. Don't worry. The majority of Baby Boomer empty nesters adjust quite well. In fact, once boomers get used to 'house silence', we enjoy the calm and privacy of unoccupied nests.
Oh-oh! Just as boomers relax into blissful serenity, 'boomerangs' come knocking on our doors. This refers to adult children who, some time ago, had moved out of our homes - only to come back to the nest for financial support (free room-and-board) or childcare help (in-house babysitters).
Do we open our homes to them? For how long?
In contrast, numerous boomers have not yet experienced the pleasures of unoccupied nests. Instead, we are impatiently awaiting the day when fully-grown offspring finally leave and set up homes of their own. This is referred to as 'failure to launch'.
Frankly, it works both ways. Don't we all know at least one boomer parent who will not let her children launch, using excuses, guilt, and other nefarious measures to keep them from moving away?
On the other hand, some boomers who root for grown-up children to hurry up and lauch, are amenable to their living in our homes, albeit with specific stipulations and time-limits. Stipulations and amounts of time vary, based on whenever our boomer-wisdom signals enough is enough.
Clearly, problems arise when we have had enough, but adult children are reluctant to leave. One common solution is to set fixed timetables. Then, stick to them.
More and more Baby Boomers have empty nests re-filled with elderly parents who are no longer able to live on their own. Good Luck!
Boomers Re-Fill Empty Nests With Elderly Parents